How To Romance Your Life

What do I mean ‘romance your life? Is it an idea we were born with, that our lives were meant to be different to what we’ve been told?
How are we to make that shift from what we’ve been told to a different reality, one that was how we were meant to live?

Have you ever been in love?

Then you will know the feeling of being in love and how everything takes on a new exhilaration in life, like you’re floating on air.
That’s what I mean about life as it was meant to be lived.
A famous movie star once said she always performed her best work when she was in love.
I think it was Bette Davis.

What does ‘romancing’ mean then?

Why can’t life always be a ‘quality or feeling of mystery, excitement and remoteness from everyday life’ as described by a dictionary definition of ‘romance’?
Does this describe your life right now? Or not?
It’s a mystery, isn’t it?
Because, after all, I’ve got to believe it’s how we were meant to live, don’t you think?
Surely it’s where we are being drawn when we have feelings of inadequacy, failure, depression or midlife crisis.
It’s what’s going on whenever we feel unhappy about our lives. Isn’t it?
What if adjusting to romance is the way to fix it.
“Follow your bliss and doors will open where you never knew they existed” said mythology author Joseph Campbell.
Bliss = Romance.

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I hope the ideas in my new book ‘Romancing Your Life & Changing The World’ (buy your copy above) will bring you a little closer to that idealised state of existence, life as she was meant to be lived, the true romance that is your life.

Love and Peace.


Soul. The Second Evolution.

Are we all trapped in a sandwich between our human side and our souls?

With each pulling us in opposite directions?

One, our souls, largely unknown and a mystery to most?

Much debated, the subject of much speculation but, without scientific proof, having very little solid evidence with which to even support its very existence.

I want to change this.

The other, our human evolution, devouring our lives and our core beliefs because it has always been the only option on the menu?

Until now we’ve been led to believe the pull is in only one direction.

That all we have is an open sandwich

Salad on rye.

What if there’s a whole new philosophy of evolution – that maybe there are two evolutions going on in our lives, in our world, and not the one we’ve come to accept as the one and only evolution.

Maybe our lives, our world, is not only about the survival of the fittest and natural selection in life.

Maybe there is also a theory of the soul.

Soul evolution.

Have we been trying to make sense of who we are and where we came from, and where we are going, when all along we’ve been the healthy salad in a sandwich between the two.

And while my philosophy of soul evolution can’t be supported by scientific proof, I will offer in future blog posts compelling evidence for a soul sandwich.

My philosophy of two evolutions.

My evidence comes from Carl Jung, ancient Greeks Socrates and Plato, scholars Joseph Campbell and James Hillman, to name a few.

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Does Destiny Play a Part in our Fortunes?

When famous popular and jazz singer Ella Fitzgerald (1917-1996) entered an amateur talent show at the Globe Theatre in New York she entered as a dancer, changed her mind, and won the $25 first prize as a singer.

She went on to a singing career lasting 6 decades winning 13 Emmys and earning the title of ‘First Lady of Song’.

At the time she was 18 years of age and living in an orphanage.

She was a favourite singer in my youth.

Did her destiny step in and invite her to change her mind at the last minute?

Was she being drawn to becoming a famous and successful singer and not a dancer?

When George Lucas was recovering from a bad racing car accident he began to conceive his ideas for ‘Star Wars’ after reading Joseph Campbell’s book ‘The Hero With a Thousand Faces’.

I’m sure you know the rest.

Did the disaster he suffered in his racing car career lead him to his fame as the creator of ‘Star Wars’?

In the world today we tend to try to hold on to the past when it’s taken from us.

The same happened to me when my freelance copywriting career of 10 years was taken from me in bankruptcy.

I survived to become an author and to live a happier life.

Is this the working of destiny?

What happens when the unexplainable redirects our lives to go the way we never intended?

I wonder, is that destiny?

Does it have our best interests at heart?

But then, don’t we have free will, to go in whatever direction we choose?

Maybe we have both.

And we can choose.

Which is free will.

I’m not suggesting you should abandon a good idea you’ve already started.

But then, to keep an open mind to opportunities in other directions that present themselves just when you’re feeling dejected about losing something you’ve already started.

“I just trust my beeps,” said the winner of a creativity business award recently.

Maybe we should always trust our beeps.

Here is what the Greek philosopher Plato had to say about our destiny.

Clearly he believed that we chose our destiny ourselves before we are born.

This extract is from his ‘Republic’:

“Now, when all the souls had chosen their lives in the order of the lots, they advanced in their turn to Lachesis, who dispatched with each of them the Destiny he had selected, to guard his life and satisfy his choice . . . and in a moment the souls were carried up to their birth, this way and that, like shooting stars.”

I invite you to read more about how my life changed after everything crashed and burned in my book ‘Man Steps Off Planet’.

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10 Powerful Quotes by Famous People That’ll Make You Think & Can Change Your Life

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” – Ernest Hemingway

“I want you to be everything that’s you, deep at the center of your being.” – Confucius

“To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions.” – Benjamin Franklin

“Aim high, and you won’t shoot your foot off.” – Phyllis Diller

“Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it.” – Lao Tzu

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“Thinking: the talking of the soul with itself.” – Plato

“Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” – Jesus

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think.”- Buddha

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

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Are We Really Meant To Live Twice?

How much truth was there, I wonder, in the title of the James Bond book and movie ‘You Only Live Twice‘?
This was Ian Fleming‘s last completed James Bond book before he died so was he trying to leave us with an important message?
So many famous people have lived 2 lives in one.
George Lucas was a racing car driver before he was involved in a serious crash when, during a long period of recovery, he conceived the idea of ‘Star Wars’. While reading Joseph Campbell’s best selling book ‘The Hero With a Thousand Faces’, he began to create his concept of ‘Star Wars’.
Singer Tom Jones launched his singing career after his lungs became infected with the coal dust he was breathing as a coal miner.
And Ella Fitzgerald was an orphan living in an orphanage in Harlem when, at the age of 18, she entered a talent quest as a dancer and, at the last minute, decided to sing instead. She won the grand first prize of $25 and went on to win 13 Grammy Awards over a singing career spanning 60 years.
They are just the famous people we know.
What about the ordinary people like you and me?
Don’t some of us face a second life, which we call Mid Life Crisis?
For 30 years I was an advertising copywriter until fate stepped in and my freelance business of over 10 years went bankrupt and shot me into my second life as a new man.
What about you?
Is your destiny urging you to break out of a life you no longer relate to?
Do we become free to follow our passion, our destiny, later in life?
Maybe you could think about whether your second life is waiting for you to make the first move.
Read about my 2 lives in my book ‘Back to the Wall’ and how my second life sent me off on a romantic adventure I could never have planned, chasing the clues to a mystery around the world.
It’s a page-turner I promise.

Best wishes.


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