What Is a Soul Mate?

Everyone today seems to be searching for their soul mate.
Or do they mean twin soul?
Or twin flame?
What is the difference, if there is one, between a twin soul and a soul mate?
Have you ever thought about it?
Whenever someone talks to me about searching for their soul mate I ask them,
“Or do you mean twin soul?”
And most of the time I get a blank look as if to say,
“I never thought of that.”
So what is the difference between a soul mate and a twin soul? If there is one.
Twin souls are, well, like twins.
They come from the same soul, or womb, and are here to achieve a common or similar goal,either together or independently.
Both Darwin and Wallace arrived at much the same theory of evolution at the same time, so they were twin souls who, rather than working in collaboration, developed the same theories, concurrently but independently.
Like insurance, if one didn’t get it the other one probably would.
Logarithms, you’ll be interested to know, were discovered by both John Napier of Scotland and Joost Burgi of Switzerland around the same time.
The microchip was invented twice within half a year of each other, first by Jack Kilby (1958) and then Robert Noyce (1959).
So what are soul mates and how are they different from a twin soul?
Soul mates are different souls, mates, who may have known each other in past lives, who feel a strong bond with each other or who have agreed to meet up to help each other or to learn from each other, often as a teacher for the other.
“You complete me” are the words of a soul mate.
“I am complete” are the words of a twin soul.
They can be your closest friend or someone who irritates you no end, depending on what their purpose is in being mates and what you need to teach/learn.
I’ve been told that I see my greatest faults in my partner.
Soul mate.
I’d like to think that the subjects of some of the greatest love stories in history might have agreed to meet again as soul mates to live out uncompleted lives.
To complete each other.
Love at first sight.
Did Lancelot and Guinevere and other tragic love stories return as soul mates?
What if you were one of them.
There are many theories on the question of what is a soul?
Mine is that the essence of our soul or higher self is what animates our physical body.
Not our soul but its essence.
Imagine that your soul is like a vast ocean which began as a clear ocean of water aeons ago.
With each lifetime a bucketful of the water from the clear ocean is drawn as the essence of a single lifetime.
That is not your soul but the essence of your soul.
The experiences of each lifetime you’ve ever lived accumulate in that ocean and therefore in that bucket of water, let’s say as colours, a different colour for each experience which are returned to the ocean when we die.
Suppose this happens over and over with each lifetime and the once clear water of the ocean becomes coloured with the experiences of every lifetime.
Each life adds more colours (experiences) to your ocean and each new life’s individual essence contains the colours (experiences) of that life to add to the ocean of coloured water.
I’d prefer to call it essence not soul.
Atman which is Brahman.
Essence which is soul.
So twin souls would be two bucketfuls draw from the same ocean.
Soul mates, on the other hand, are bucketfuls of coloured water drawn from different oceans.
Then there are group souls.
Group souls need to socialise.
Have you ever wondered why a flock of birds in flight all change direction at precisely the same moment?
It’s because most birds and animals are members of a group soul.
So were we, I believe, in ages past.
Then we, at some point, break away and individuate.
Then we are complete.

Love and Peace,

Neil

Read more about the soul and soul mates in my books –

Romancing Your Life & Changing the World

The Great Regency Cover-Up